Finding love or just find love for yourself. Either way, let’s help— whether you have a disability or not.


Finding love or just find love for yourself. Either way, let’s help— whether you have a disability or not.

Having a disability changes your life and will continue to do so but with greater self-confidence and a positive self-image, comes the ability to face challenges, adapt, and evolve.

When you focus on your flaws, you are telling others to take notice of them too. Why not set a goal for yourself today to accept your imperfections and to show off your best assets.  Your physical appearance doesn’t need to change but your self-perception does. Confidence in yourself can transform you and give you the courage to take risks and be open to new opportunities, including love.   In order to find love for yourself and others, try erasing all your negative thinking and past obstacles.  This will help you get rid of negative thinking patterns that keep you from being the best version of yourself.

Self-image – This is a chance to play up your strengths and accept the less than ideal parts of yourself that you cannot change. What would a friend say are your best attributes? What skills come naturally to you and not to your friend? What things are you not so good at? Try looking at yourself objectively, both your good and not so good attributes.

Highlight your best attributes – After you acknowledge your strengths you can then decide what attributes you want to focus on.  Do you receive compliments about your eyes or genuine smile? Are you a great performer or talented writer? Which of your qualities and attributes are you most proud of? Once you decide on the features you like about yourself and feel proud to display, put everything else in the background.  You may not be able to control your disability, but you can control your personal style. Your disabilities do not have to define you.

Authentic – Once you know who you are and what you stand for, it’s time to show the real you, authenticity takes bravery. Some people with disabilities hide who they are from others because they worry about being thought of as weak and rejected. But, in reality, the opposite is true. People respect and want to be around people who are real.

Conclusion – We are all ‘works in progress’. Just when you think you’ve got it figured and feel confident with the overall image, life will change in an instant. The final step is to live the best life you can today
and remember, your image is one of a kind.

If you have read the above and think that you are ready to meet new people whether it be a new friend, someone to love or something in between. Find the list below of the best disability dating sites out there.

Disabled Dating 4U started in the UK back in 2009 as a small site, but has since grown in popularity and claims to have thousands of new members joining it each day. It is also one of the few dating sites used to connect singles on the latest series of the hit TV show, The Undateables.

Dating4Disabled is a global website with the express aim of bringing disabled people together across forums, blogs and chat rooms. Designed for use by disabled people only, the site tries to create an inclusive atmosphere in which people feel safe to express themselves. The site is as much a social network as it is a dating site.

Disability Match UK is one of the biggest dating websites. While most websites users have some sort of disability, the site is also open to non-disabled users, who in the sites own words; “look beyond an obvious disability and focus on the whole person and a possible relationship they might enjoy.”


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